"Needing" is openly reaching out and asking for support from a man in a trusting manner, one that assumes that he will do his best. This empowers him while "Neediness" is desperately needing support because you don't trust you will get it. It pushes men away and makes them feel rejected and unappreciated.
For instance, you need to buy a pair of shoes for 10k, after telling your man, he will either give you the money immediately (if he has it) or promise to give you later. Waiting patiently for the fulfillment of the promise is being "needing". You don't put pressure on him. Even if he fails to fulfill it at the promised date (with genuine reasons), you don't need to abuse him. You still have to trust him in fulfilling the needs. A man feel more loved and valued this way. He will hold you in high esteem. But you lose it when you mount pressure on him to meet your needs by all means either by threatening not to pick his calls or not to go out with him , even stop visiting him. This is pure "neediness". It shows you don't trust him. The worse of it is cursing or abusing him. No reasonable man wants such a woman in his life. He will lose so much respect for you. Just know you have started losing him unless you quickly ask for his forgiveness.
Ladies, learn to trust your man in meeting your needs. Don't ever show an attitude that you can do without him......The truth is you can but don't show it. He will feel not needed. A man is easily frustrated in a relationship he's not needed. Don't ever make this mistake. Be wise!!
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