LOVE GIVES FREEDOM

   

   Love never cages but gives freedom. A caged person feels imprisoned. She will think you don't trust her. Free your partner; allow her to have  her own life.  Never encroach on the liberty of your partner  because it only breeds frustration  and mistrust. This attitude has broken many relationships.

   Stop trying to know everything your partner does; it only makes you look irritating. Not trusting your partner to have friends even opposite sex as friends can be a sign of low self-esteem or inferiority complex. 

   The Holy Book says, "I place before you life and death; choose life so you can live." Even our heavenly Father gave us the freedom of  choice.  We're called by God into "liberty." This liberty is not meant for sin; it's for responsibility.  So, giving liberty to your partner confer on her responsibility.  She will be happy to see her as a responsible person. 

   Remember, love gives liberty.  Your partner will appreciate it when you give her her own freedom. 
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LOVE IS RECIPROCAL

 

 

   There is reciprocal kind of love.  If God has not loved us, there will be no template for us to love Him. So, don't wait for others (your spouse, fiance, fiancee, friend) to love you first; create a template for them to love you by first showing them love and care. No one rejects love. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted because we all long for acceptance.

    Love boosts someone's confidence. Love prolongs life. It breeds acceptance and care. Don't withhold this powerful weapon in the face of disagreement. Don't be overcome by hatred or malice; overcome with love. There is no river love cannot cross. There is no mountain love cannot climb. There is no barrier love cannot overcome. Nothing can hinder the manifestation of love. Don't be shameful in showing love to others because it's foolishness to be shameful of what is gainful.

    During this season,  show love to others by giving because it's one of the expressions of love. You can't love and not give. Meet the needs of the poor. Don't allow people you know go to bed in hunger and sorrow. Open your heart of love to others. This will result in thanksgivings and praises to our heavenly Father.

   Remember,  whatever you want others to do to you, take the initiative first and do it to them. Don't wait for others to first meet your needs, meet their needs first. Try to be first in showing love to others. Be the first in meeting the needs of your spouse. Be the first in giving to that poor person you know.

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WHO IS A HUSBAND?

   Husband does not mean the male partner in a marriage, husband means master.

The reason for most problems in Christian marriages is the fact that women refute God’s definition of marriage and form theirs. They believe they are equal partners.

   If most women had their fathers bold enough to talk to them, they will be very successful in their marriage and they will be very happy people. Most women have never been taught by their parents, their fathers particularly and that’s their biggest problem because they don’t know who a man is, they think he is another woman.

   In marriage, you have the man who is the head of that union and because he’s the head of that union, its important to understand him. You think he’s the one that needs to understand his wife and that is where you are wrong. He will eventually but you have to know the type of man you are married to and his needs.
When you say you are marrying a man, you are coming under his authority. The Bible says, the man is the head of the woman (1 Corinthians 11:3) so when you marry him you come under his authority, you are not authority sharers even though you are both heirs to the kingdom of God.

   When you decide not to subject yourself to that authority, you are a rebel and God is not going to accept what you are doing because you are not functioning correctly. Why did God make the woman?
Making woman was not God’s original plan because after God created Adam and before He made Eve, He said in Genesis 1:31 “Then God looked over all he had made, and he saw that it was very good”. God made woman because of man so woman was not His original idea. This is reality.

   Genesis 2:18a “And the Lord God said “for it is not good for a man to be alone..” The Bible didn’t say “lonely” but “alone”. There is a big difference. Man wasn’t lonely but alone. Genesis 2:18b “…I will make him an help meet”. He didn’t say a partner or a supervisor or a special advisor or someone to tell him what to do.
I will make him someone to help him. God gave man a responsibility so woman was made to help man achieve that responsibility. If this is understood in every home then you won’t have problems.

   I tell people that you don’t need a marriage seminar, you need the Word Seminar. Let me tell you, no husband wants another mother, he has had one all his life. He doesn’t want an older sister, he probably had one.
Your secret is in obedience, your secret is in listening to your husband, your secret is in doing the things that please him. When you don’t do the things that please him, you take the role of a mother or of an older sister.

   A man loves the one he serves (God) and the one that serves him (a good wife). He fights the one that wants to be at the same level with him (a rebellious wife).
To be happy in your family and home is the easiest thing in the world, just take your role. Take your place. That place that God gave you is a beautiful place. Its a place of peace. Its a place of love. It’s a place of excellence. BY REV. CHRIS OYAKHILOME DS.C DD.
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GOAL IS A WAKER

   When you've a target goal, it keeps you awake. You can even wake up in the odd hour (like am, 3am etc.) just to achieve the goal. Most of us can still remember that when we've exams or an assignment or project to submit the following day, we wake up early like 2am or 3am to achieve our aim.  We can testify that waking up by this time on a normal day, when you have nothing to submit or no exam, can be very difficult.  It offers that the antidote to laziness or spirit of slumber is goal-setting. You can't have a goal and not be fully awake, alert to achieve it. Those who are lazy or love sleep, most of the times, are often without goals.
   I know you can still remember this portion of the scripture........... "some Jews banded together and bound themselves under an oath, saying that they would neither eat nor drink till they had killed Paul. Now there were more than  forty who had formed this conspiracy." About forty people vowed not to eat until they had killed the greatest Apostle who ever lived. It offers goal energies.  It fuels the setter with strength. Passionate goals make you do the impossible. It's good to have goals because if you are GOALLESS you will be a GOAT -- you will have no direction for your life. No destination; just wandering to and fro. "Like a bird that strays from its nest is a man who wanders from his home." This was written by the greatest and wisest king in the old testament. It offers that if you don't want to die prematurely, have a set goal.    Remember,  goal keeps alive; it energizes;  it gives meanings to life; it adds colours and beauty to destiny; it chases away the spirit of slumber; it turns you to a smart and hardworking person. Don't be goalless but be goalful, not to end as a goat with no direction.
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NEVER ENDING PROGRESS

 

    No matter the challenge I face on my way to my Canaanland,  I will not remember Egypt by speaking good of it. I will not be like the Israelites in the wilderness who kept speaking good of Egypt anytime they were faced with a little challenge not knowing Canaan and Egypt are incomparable.  In Egypt,  you're treated like a slave but it's not like that in Canaan where you are treated like a king. In Egypt,  you suffer as a burden-bearer before you eat but in Canaan, every of your effort culminates into abundance. You live in abject poverty in Egypt but it's not so in Canaan because you live in great prosperity.
   Canaan is a land flowing with milk and honey (abundance and prosperity) but Egypt is a land flowing with suffering, persecution and poverty. Egypt can refer to anything in you life being it bad relationship, bad marriage,  bad friends, bad wife, bad husband, bad business etc. But don't be discouraged; keep professing, claiming and seeing with th eyes of faith into the Canaanland of your relationship, marriage, friendship, business etc. If it entails leaving Egypt like the Israelites, please do by taking the fastest jet of promptness out of that Egypt kind of relationship,  friendship, business.
   This is a gift to everyone who wished me happy birthday and to those who forgot.  I'm convinced  I'm on my way to my Canaanland. I am making progress every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every week, every month, every year. Remember,  Egypt and Canaan are incomparable. Any challenge on your way to your Canaanland should not make you remember Egypt.  #Love Coach.