"NOT EVERYTHING THAT IS LAWFUL IS BENEFICIAL"

As I was studying my bible one day, this quote from the greatest Apostle who ever lived jumped out of the page of the scripture (It’s good to study the holy book, if you don’t you are missing a lot). It says, “Everything is lawful, but not everything is beneficial. Everything is lawful, but not everything builds others up”. But I will say….”but not everything builds you up”.

Getting drunk with alcohol maybe lawful but is not beneficial to your health --- could lead to diabetes, liver/kidney disease. Having many girlfriends or boyfriends maybe lawful but is not beneficial to your mental state (lack of focus, unwanted pregnancy), financial state (spending like a prodigal son to impress others), health (HIV/AIDS, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, complications or death as a result of abortion). Telling lies can be lawful but is not beneficial to your integrity. This can tarnish your image among people. Getting a divorce maybe lawful but is not beneficial to your mental state (depression, sorrow, regret, bitterness, hatred), children and health .

Smoking maybe lawful but is not beneficial to your health (damaged lung), mental state (thinking irrationally). Watching movies or chatting from morning till evening maybe lawful but is not beneficial to your destiny. Wearing sexy dresses that reveal your breasts and other private parts of your body maybe lawful and fashionable but is not beneficial to your dignity as a virtuous woman. The list is endless. Think of whatever you are doing that’s lawful but is not beneficial and stop doing it. That thing maybe popular but could be dangerous to your life and destiny. So before doing anything, ask yourself a question “Is it beneficial? Will it add value to me and others?”

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"THIS PARTICULAR ACT WILL DESTROY YOU"

I still don’t understand why some guys still expect ladies to be patient and understanding while they are cheating with other girls. Can a guy be understanding if his babe is cheating on him? According to relationship experts, marriage is 10% sex and 90% communication. Any guy with many girlfriends has turned this formula around to his own detriment. Having many sexual partners is pure foolish and illusion. Such a guy can never be focused in life. He will be a great waster and destroyer of public barter of exchange called “EEGO”. He’s blinded, not knowing all vaginas are the same. God didn’t make some more golden and honey than the others. Guys, use your head. Think!!!

You may be asking why I am passionately writing about this. It’s because I’m angry with the stupid acts of some men which are now gradually accepted as norms in our society. We must speak against this evil. Because as God created men so He made women. Men are superior to women only in marriage but apart from that, they have equal rights. Even married men are not left out in this game of unfaithfulness. Some don’t even allow single ladies to rest. This is highly lugubrious… a state of dismal pismal.

Single ladies, stop using your vagina to make money, start using your head. Stop being a side chick to married men in the name of money. Don’t forget that the love of money is the root of all evil which many covet and have caused themselves with many sorrows. I pray you will have a change of heart instead of sorrow in Jesus name. Thanks.

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HOW TO SAVE YOUR MAN FROM SIDE CHICS

The physicist, Albert Einstein, made a discovery on SPACE and TIME. This is also applicable to relationship. Women crave for time (attention) while men crave for space (time to be alone).  The ability to know the difference and when to apply it will save you from a lot of stress in your dating, courtship or marriage.

Many relationships are under pressure because of ignorance of the law of space and time. Women, let me tell you a secret, as much as a man loves you, he also needs some space to be on his own – time to be in his cave doing his personal stuff. Those things that give him joy. These things can be work, golf, watching games like football, volleyball or basketball. Hindering him from doing these things in the name of attention will make him unhappy. Even though he gives you the attention out of coercion, just know he doesn’t come from his heart.

If you need somebody to gist with, why not gist with a friend instead.  It’s far better than disturbing or stopping his activity. When he’s done, he will definitely come for you. You must understand that as women derive pleasure from companionship, men drive pleasure from work or activity like games. This insight will save you from relationship stress. Forcing a man to give you attention at all cost can be fruitless when his mind is in champion league or his work. Give him that space. Leave him to do his own stuff. (But men should not overdo this also. I will even suggest you quickly round up whatever you are doing to see your woman).  

Another mistake women make in relationships is trying to change their men. This can backfire. A man can break up with a lady on that basis if it’s too much. Appreciate his nature; allow him to be himself and you will have a confident and lovely man. (Advice to men: try to place yourself on consistent self development and you will see yourself becoming a better man). Even though you want him to improve in certain aspect of his life, present it as a suggestion rather than using a mothering tone --- I meant a commanding tone; no man likes that. When you give an advice and he doesn’t yield to it but rather does things his own way which eventually leads to great errors, don’t scold or mock him. Don’t ever say, “Didn’t I tell you”. No man loves to hear that. Rather, comfort him and assure him he will do better next time. You can then bring up your abandoned advice again. Doing this will make you “pocket” your man without stress. There’s a general belief that “sex and food” keep a man. That’s a big lie. Most women can give that but only few women can be understanding and patience with their husbands. Remember, don’t try to change your man, rather, appreciate his good nature and the bad character will disappear with time.

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THE POWER OF RIGHT DECISION

Right decision makes you the envy of others

It makes you famous

It makes you the talk of the town

It gives you honour among men

It increases your self-worth & self-esteem

It gives freedom

It eradicates fear

It kills stress

It makes you to be far ahead in life

It instills confidence in you

It emboldens you

It empowers

It changes the course of time

It brings about change and revolution

It’s a great physician of all time

It can cure any kind of sicknesses and diseases

The woman with the issue of blood used the power of right decision to get her healing by saying, “If only I can touch the hem of His garment I will be made whole”

It cures the centurion’s servant by him deciding to meet the MASTER

It’s an antidote of financial sickness called POVERTY

Many have risen from zero to hero by this powerful weapon

Many in obscurity have become famous by this powerful tool

Many scientists like Albert Einstein and Thomas Edison used this great instrument to change the course of time

Right decision was a powerful ingredient in their scientific researches

It makes a maiden to marry the man of her dream

It causes a young man to propose to the girl of her dream

It has caused many to become presidents of nations, heads of states, powerful kings, CEOs, mangers, etc.

It places people into great professions they had imagined

Right decision is great; use it well

Right decision is awesome; use it to transform lives and destinies

Don’t be fearful to take that right decision

Take those steps of faith

And you will see doors opening

And nature working together to bring about the realization of your dreams

Take that right decision NOW

Tomorrow may be too late.

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KNOWING THESE LITTLE THINGS CAN ADD HONEY TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP....READ

Scoring points with your woman is very important. Some men think the only way to score points with women is doing great stuffs like sending her money, buying her a car, building a house, paying the bills etc.  forgetting that women view things differently from men. Let me tell you the bitter truth, women value little things and great things the same way.

Little things like buying her a flower, opening her the car door, trashing the refuse bin without complaining, taking the kids to school, helping out in kitchen especially when she’s tired, giving undivided attention to her complaints, writing her love poems, hugging her, saying “I love you”, spending quality time with her, etc. All these things are easily ignored by men but they are of great values to women.

 When your woman is complaining of not spending quality time with her maybe because of work, don’t be angry. Listen and adjust. Don’t see it as if she doesn’t want you to work. She really appreciates your hard work in trying to take care of the family, but all the same, she still wants quality time with you. She wants to hang out to watch a movie or go for a picnic with you. All these things are also important as you work to pay the bills.

I know it might not be too easy to adjust, but find possible means to do so. You’ll see improvement in your loving relationship. Your woman will be able to love without resentments. She will be happy and joyful. She will definitely feel loved and cherished. This will automatically better your life and relationship. You’ll be able to experience heaven on earth dating, courtship or marriage.

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