THE SECRET EVERY LADY WISHES HER MAN KNOW

Men and women hear and interpret words differently. We view things in different ways which is always the cause of arguments in relationships. The more intimate you are with your partner, the more prone you are to arguments. In this write up I will be showing you how to reduce argument to its minimal level or elimininate it completely.

Women like their feelings to be validated i.e they want you to see the reason why they are angry.  Your woman doesn’t need your explanation why you “fuck up”. Giving explanation no matter how logical it might be will only make her angrier. It makes her look stupid for being angry. Why not keep the explanation till the atmosphere is calm. You will do best as a man by listening to her frustration without taking it personal. Men are prone to take things personal when their women are complaining. They do interpret it as if their women are accusing them of being incompetent and irresponsible. You will do well if you don’t take her words personal but rather validate her feelings.

One of the best ways you can validate her feelings is by saying “I am sorry for hurting you”. But this has to be said with remorse and regret. She really wants to see that you are really sorry. Don’t just say it casually. This word means a lot to women. Don’t be too big for such word. Don’t say it’s a taboo in your family to say such word to a woman.. Swallow your pride and look into her eyes with love and say this powerful word. To women, “I am sorry”  means you care; and you cherish her. You will easily dissipate her anger by following this principle. Your relationship will not be war-like but heaven-like. You will then grow in intimacy and love. I look forward to hearing from you.

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A PROVEN WAY TO CORRECT A MAN WITHOUT GETTING HIM ANGRY

The Holy Book says, “Knowledge puffs up but love builds up”.  Too much knowledge can actually be a burden especially when it’s exhibited by a woman to her man. Showing your man you know more than him can be a big issue in a relationship. A man is easily pissed off by such a lady. Before your man say “A”, you’ve said “Z”.  Let’s quickly look into the symptoms of women suffering from this burden.

• ·         She easily finds faults with her man.

• ·         If her man angrily say a word she replies in a multiple folds.

• ·         She always tries to change her man by force.

• ·         She quickly corrects her man like a small child.

• ·       She often says she knows her right.

Men are easily frustrated by this kind of behaviour. Even when a man does something wrong the last thing he expects from you is criticism. No man enjoys that. It only makes a man to be more stubborn in defending himself. He knows what he did was wrong. What he wants from you is understanding and not shouting or abuse. This understanding is shown by the way you correct him. If you correct him as if you’re his mother, you’re asking for trouble. It won’t solve the matter but only aggravate it. He will see it as being disrespectful to him. So be careful how you correct a man in order not to wound his EGO. Or else, he will feel controlled, rejected and unloved.

I know you may be asking this question in your mind,  “how can I correct a man without getting him angry?”  Do you want the “bitter” truth? Don’t try to correct him. Sound awkward, right? Yep. A man feels loved when you accept him as he is.  I know you may be asking now, how will he then improve since nobody is perfect? I catch you. Lol. He will definitely improve on his own when you don’t try to improve him. Trust him enough to make the improvement on his own. You can share your concerns or negative feelings with him. Let me tell you how to go about it. This is not a general formula, be creative about it. You can say …”Honey, I felt unloved with the way you treated me yesterday or I am concerned with the way you shouted at that woman yesterday. I know you are better than that; I trust your judgment on any matter. I believe you will do better next time because I know the kind of man I married”. This has to be said with emotions and looking deeply in to his eyes. I bet you, there’ll be an improvement. He’ll behave better next time.

Remember, don’t allow your emotions override you by shouting or trying to improve your man. Speak and relate with him in love and you will experience heaven on earth relationship.

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HOW TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN LIKE SOCCER

Women also experience mood swing at times. This is the time they’re annoyed, angry and unloved. They can even talk disrespectfully during this period. Men need not to be angry. When this happens, you need to understand your woman has hit the bottom of her wave-like emotion. What she needs from you is love, support and understanding. At this time she needs your care and intimacy the most. Unfortunately, most of the time, this is when men distant themselves. It should not be so.

Understand that your woman needs to cool off and feel loved again by talking out her feelings, pains and frustrations. This might be a result of stress from work or home. It’s not always easy for a woman to come from work, enter the kitchen to cook. And simultaneously be looking after the children especially when they are little. This can make her quickly hit the bottom of her emotion. That’s why it is good for a man to help out with some house chores. As your wife is cooking, you’re looking after the children; not just crossing your leg and be watching champion league. I hope wonderful men reading this piece will take this to heart.

At times the fault might not be from you. Your wife may be stressed because of work. So, you don’t need to feel responsible for this. What she needs from you during this period is rapt attention, listening ear and caring attitude. She will definitely open up if you show you care. Listen without trying to ‘fix’ her problems. Listen with rapt attention without any distraction. She may even feel worse but be patient. Allow her to talk out her feelings because that’s the only way she can feel better. Learn to say, “Hmm”, “okay”, “seriously”, “Really!” when listening to her. This will prompt her to keep talking thereby making her feel loved and understood . If you can do this consistently, your relationship will be full of love and quarrel free.

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BEFORE YOU SAY "YES", READ THIS....

Practical wisdom that makes relationship work is very important. Despising this can result in relationship stress. Wisdom is even needed in every sphere of one’s life.  Let’s take a walk through the book of proverb. Are you ready? Let’s go…..”The LORD created me at the beginning of his works, before his deeds of long ago. From eternity I was appointed, from the beginning, even before the world existed.” Our heavenly Father didn’t joke with wisdom in creation. It was the first thing He created. And you want to go into that relationship with just your head knowledge or common sense? You don’t want to follow the path of wisdom through “books”, “mentorship” or “seminars”. You must create wisdom at the beginning of your relationship if you want it to be heaven-on-earth. Not following this path will only bring harm which could lead to relationship death. If it takes you 4 to 6 years to study a course in university, how much do you think it will take to be a great lover? It takes time of preparation, hard work and heavily investment in books, tapes or attending seminars. Do not leave this aspect of your life to common sense for you not to have a “common” relationship.

You want favour in that relationship, go after wisdom. Even the holy book says, “For the one who finds me (wisdom) finds life and receives favour from the LORD”. Bring life to your relationship through adequate preparation for your dating, courtship or marriage. I hope you’ll take to this advice.

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A SIMPLE TECHNIQUE TO STRESS-FREE RELATIONSHIP

The Holy Book says, “If the clouds be full of rain, they empty themselves upon the earth”.  No one needs to go up into the sky to force the clouds to release the rains. When they are filled with water they release it naturally to the earth. The question is, what are you filling the cloud of your relationship with? Is it abuse? Is it blessing? Is it love? Because whatever you are filling the cloud of your relationship with determines what comes down as rain. If you fill it with blessing, you will see rain of blessing in your relationship. If you fill it with hatred, you will see hatred. If you fill it with love, you’ll see love. So it’s garbage in, garbage out. This is in tandem with the law of nature that says everything produces after its own kind. If that relationship is not working, look inward. Check your thought. What kind of thought are you sowing into your relationship? Also, check what you say. Your thoughts and words are substances you can use to fill the cloud of your relationship.

Have great thoughts towards that relationship. Speak blessing and not curse. Speak gracious words and not wicked words. Because whatever you use to fill the cloud of your relationship determines what comes down as rain. Remember, whatever a man sows so shall he reap. Sow the right words and thoughts into your relationship.

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For counseling or questions, call or whatsApp this no: 08103085171

Looking forward to hear from you. Thanks.