YOU ARE NOT IN A RELATIONSHIP UNTIL YOU READ THIS........

   I don't know why some girls still never learn; why "sense no dey some girls' heads". A guy is habitually cheating on you and he's saying he won't do such in marriage; and you swallow those lies hook,  line and sinker. Permit me to use the language of Paul "who has bewitched you?" Marriage does not make a guy responsible. Marriage will never suddenly make a guy a saint.  If he's not responsible or faithful now, he will still be irresponsible or unfaithful in marriage. I don't care how long you have been in such relationship, OPT OUT NOW. You've to drive out Canaanite,  Jebusite, Hittite and Perrizite-kind of guy or lady out of your life if you want to fulfill destiny. Move out of that unfruitful relationship. Any relationship that does not add to you but keep subtracting or dividing you does not worth it.
   Remember, you've one life, so use it well. Relationship is not by force; it's by mutual understanding, dedication and responsibility. There're many far-better girls or guys out there who will give you peace and joy. Don't be fearful to opt out. Don't ever believe the lie that all girls or guys are the same . That is the bondage of remaining in an abusive relationship.  I think you now have the courage to act now. Be out of that slavery relationship.  I look forward to hearing from you.

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BREAK UP OR BREAKDOWN? (Part 1)

  God warned the Israelites that if they fail to drive out completely the Canaanites, Hittites,  Jebusites and the Perrizites, they will be torn in their flesh and snares unto them; but the Israelites disobeyed. They started cohabiting with some of them till this day. It's very difficult to drive them out now because executing a task is time-bound.  You will discover that these non-Israelites eventually became torns in their flesh and snares unto them by suffering the Israelites.

   Let's apply this to relationship. There are some people you should not even date at all. There are some people you should not be intimate with. Because they will be torns in your fresh by causing you pain and sorrow. They will be snare to you by becoming a cog in the wheel of your progress. Dating, courtship or friendship is not by force. Any relationship that is consistently causing you sorrow or hindering your progress should be dumped with immediate effect. You opt out by driving such person out of your life. Don't manage relationship with the unfaithful.  Don't endure a guy who beats you. That's not love; it's pure hatred. Remember, relationship is not by force; it's by understanding, dedication and responsibility.

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THE AMAZING SECRET OF BEING LOVED BY OTHERS IN 5 MINUTES

  You ought to be like the two Centurions recorded in the Holy Book. One was moved by the suffering of his servant and persuaded Jesus for his servant's healing; the other gave alms to the poor to the extent that our heavenly Father took notice. God took notice of the giving of an unbeliever despite His busy schedule?  That is serious! This guy's giving must have positively transformed lives. The poor are in the heart of God. He cares for them to the extent that when Jesus opened the book of Isaiah, He read, "to preach the gospel to the poor."

   One of the major ways of showing love to others is by GIVING. Giving can come in any form. It's not necessary to be rich before you give.  Getting help is another way of showing love. The first Centurion couldn't heal but he got someone (Jesus) who could heal his servant. Don't wait till you have before you start giving. Use your influence or position to get help for others. For example, someone is in need of a job and you know someone who can help him out, why not connect the job seeker to the person. Many people have gotten jobs through this way. Using your influence to get help for others is one of the best ways of showing love. This makes your light shine before men your good works will make the heart of men sing for joy and glorify our heavenly Father. 

   Remember,  be NICE to others, don't be mean if you don't want hard life.
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ARE YOU NICE?

The Holy Book says, "Love the Lord with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your might and the second is LIKE UNTO IT, love your neighbour as yourself". The part of the scripture that was written by the brother of our Saviour threw more light on this; he says, "if a man say, I love God, and hateth his brother, he is a liar: for he that loveth not his brother whom he hath seen, how can he love God whom he hath not seen?" It offers that the litmus test for your love for God is loving others especially your brother in faith. If you don't love others and claim you love God, you're a BIG LIAR. Love is not shown only by words but also by ACTION.  It must be seen in your behaviour or character or personality .
A person that is full of love is ever ready to help others; he's compassionate and ever ready to draw pepole out of the pit of suffering, hunger or pain. What touches others touches him. He feels the pain of others.  People of the world call this "BEING NICE" but Christians call it "LOVE". If  a person is nice, that person is showing love to others.
One part of the scripture says, "whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?" If the suffering of others does not move you, you need deliverance.  You must be moved by the problems of those you claim you love.

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CURE OF RELATIONSHIP HEADACHES

"To whom little is forgiven, the same loveth little." This was said by the Saviour of the world. It offers that to whom much is forgiven, the same loves much. Forgiveness  strengthens the bond of love. That must be the reason the Holy Book says "Love covers a multitude of sins." It offers that to have more love in  a relationship is to have more forgiveness.  Don't pray for more love, pray for more grace to forgive your partner; because, forgiveness will strengthen the bond of love between you and your partner. 

When your partner offends you, take that opportunity to strengthen the bond of love by instant forgiveness.  Permit me to borrow the word of Napoleon hill which says " In the midst of difficulty lies opportunity." It means that in the midst of that offence lies the opportunity to increase your partner's love for you through forgiveness.  Love increases to the level of offences which can be forgiven. It's not easy to forgive especially when the event is very painful. Let's pray for grace to forgive.  Forgiveness not only increases the bond of love but also releases an individual from the bondage of bitterness.

When you forgive, it doesn't mean you will forget the pain immediately.  At times, forgetting the pain may take time. It might take weeks, months, even years  depending on the degree of pain. You may ask, "how can I know I have truly forgive others?" It's when  the matter comes to your remembrance without bitterness or anger towards the offender. If you still feel bitterness, anger or revenge, you have not truly forgiven from the bottom  of your heart. Forgiveness is from the heart and not only from the mouth. Remember,  to whom much is forgiven, the same loves much. Increase your partner's love for you by sincerely forgiving him/her.

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WANT TO GET MARRIED?

The greatest prophet said "the last shall be the first." This principle is practised when you're on the queue. As those in your front are attended to, your own turn will come. Even though you're the last person on the queue, you'll soon be the first. This principle can't work without patience.  Without patience,  the last person cannot be the first. When your friends are getting engaged or married, buying cars or building houses, don't be discouraged.  Even if you are  the last person,  it will soon be your turn. Their success will only move you to the front; so, rejoice with them.
With patience, it will also be your turn. Don't jump the queue, it will only jeopardise your destiny. Because your friends are getting married, don't just marry anybody. You might end up in a sorrowful marriage that will make you regret for life. Some people will marry at 20, 22, 28 or even 32. It's better to know your time. Don't be impatient because God makes everything good in  its time. Marry the right person; be engaged to the right person. Don't allow impatience make you date the wrong person. Remember, by jumping the queue you can jump into a pit. Therefore, be patient.

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WHY ARE YOU NOT FAMOUS?

   Don't despise anything you do effortlessly because some people are finding them difficult to do. For example,  if you have a gift of writing, locate an area of interest and start writing. Post your write up on the social media. Allow the world to benefit from your light.
   If it's speaking or cooking, make a short video of your talent,  upload it on Facebook, Instagram or YouTube for the world to see. Don't allow what you studied in university hide your talent.  Don't allow your age to hinder your talent from coming to limelight.
   This is my advice to the great fathers and mothers of this generation especially Africa parents. If you see your child having a flare for something or gifted in a particular area like drama, comedy, singing or soccer, don't kill that desire by continuously rebuking your child anytime he/she is showcasing his/her talent. 
   There are many great footballers like Messi; great authors like Chimamanda Adichie; great actors like Alex Ekubo; great bloggers like Linda Ikeji;  great comedians like AY or Basketmouth; great singers like Frank Edward whose talents have been  buried because their parents wanted them to become Doctors,  Engineers, Nurses or Pharmacists.  This has to stop. Allow your children to become what they love doing. Be a talent hunter, not a talent killer.
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