LOVE IS NOT AN EXPRESS ROAD

   Relationships are full of mountains and valleys. You sit down to think, analyse and improve on anything in the valley. You even know the way forward and right steps to take in the valley. Mountain is full of ecstasies and pleasures. This  can suspend our reasoning and mentality. Don't give up on love in the valleys of your relationship. It's the time to re-strategise and improve on the relationship. It's time to know what is not working.
   If there's no valley, there will be no mountain. Remember, relationships are not only  made of "express roads", there are potholes and bents. Don't be deceived that relationship will always be sweet with no challenges; these hitches are parts of relationship packages.  A good relationship is not hitch-free, rather,  the pleasures and benefits are more than the challenges. If you look well, the issue might be infinitesimal to the pleasures and benefits.
   Don't allow one or two issues destroy your relationship. Stop focusing on those little challenges, instead, focus on the benefits and pleasures; and pray for grace and wisdom to overcome the challenges.  With heavenly Father on your side,  you'll have heaven on earth relationship. Even the Saviour of the world didn't promise problem-free life. He said,  if we're passing through fire, He is there with us. He told us to be of good cheer because He has overcome the world for us.
   Remember,  there's no perfect partner anywhere; only the person you can cope with. Nobody is without character flaw. If you see anyone you can cope with as HE/SHE IS STRIVING HARD TOWARDS PERFECTION,  you're good to go. I pray this write-up ministers wisdom to your heart. #LOVECOACH. #I-write-teach-speak-counsel. #Relationshipbetterment. #Loveimpactor.

LOVE NEVER GIVE UP IN SEEKING SOLUTION

 

   Love cannot be deterred by insults, disappointments or frustrations in seeking help for his lover. Love does not give up in finding means to take her lover out of pain and suffering. The woman whose daughter was demon-possessed in the Holy Book came to our Saviour to get deliverance for her daughter.  It was recorded that Jesus didn't answer her immediately. When He eventually gave her audience, He told her He was only sent to the lost sheep of the house of Israel.  In spite of this reply, the woman didn't give up. When our Saviour saw the woman's pleading disturbing, He insulted her by saying "It's not good to take the children's bread and throw it to the LITTLE DOGS." So, He called the woman and her daughter little puppies. In spite of this, the woman was not discouraged. Her love for her daughter made her respond wisely which our Saviour saw as GREAT FAITH. Her daughter was eventually delivered as a result of her never-take-no-for-an-answer attitude. It can be deduced that LOVE leads to PERSISTENCE which leads to FAITH, and FAITH leads to RESULTS.
   If you truly love something or someone, you don't give up until they are delivered from those difficult circumstances. Remember,  LOVE NEVER GIVE UP IN SEEKING SOLUTION FOR HER LOVER. #LOVE COACH. I teach-write-speak-counsel. #Relationship-betterment. #Love-impactor.

LOVE IS ONENESS, NOT SAMENESS

   Oneness means complementality while still retaining your identity but sameness means losing your identity for the other person - becoming nobody because of others. So, in oneness your identity is retained ("who you are" is intact) while in sameness your identity is lost ("who you are" is destroyed).

   Oneness also means to see into each other, fellowship, understanding of why the other person acts or thinks the way he/she does, communion or partnership, friendship, openness and honesty while sameness means carbon copy in terms of behaviour, mindset or attitude which could bring boredom and frustration; thinking and acting the same way which hinders creativity and innovation. 

   In the Holy Book, our Saviour prayed that " they all may be one, as You, Father are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us....." It does not mean sameness; it implies fellowship with our Father and others; understanding of our heavenly Father and others while still retaining our identities. Our Saviour never prayed for sameness but oneness. 

   Understanding of the word "Oneness" generates mercy and loving kindness towards others. That is why our Father is slow to anger, and does not easily judge or punish us. Oneness mindset brings harmony in relationships while sameness minset only brings frustration and anger as a result of trying to make the other person be like you.

   The Holy Book says "a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and become ONE. In relationships especially marriage, we're meant to be one (in fellowship and understanding of each other's make-up) and not the same (being carbon copy of each other which brings boredom, frustration and lost of one's identity). Our Father loves diversity and creativity.  Remember,  our Saviour didn't pray for SAMENESS but ONENESS.
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LOVE IS RECIPROCAL

   The Apostle whom Jesus loved so much wrote this in one of the epistles; "We love because He first loved us". So, love is reciprocal. If our heavenly Father has not loved us, there will be no template for us to love Him and others. So, don't wait for others (your spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, fiance or friend)  to first love you; create a template for them to love you  by first showing them love and care.
   No one rejects love. Everyone wants to be loved and accepted, because we all long for acceptance.  Love boosts one's confidence. Love prolongs life. It produces acceptance and care. Don't withhold this powerful weapon in the face of disagreement. Don't be overcome by hatred or malice; rather, overcome with love. There is no river, love cannot cross. There is no mountain, love cannot climb. There is no wall, love cannot pass through. Nothing can hinder the manifestation of this great virtue. Don't be shameful in showing love to others; because, it's foolishness to be shameful of what is gainful.
   Remember, whatever you want others to do to you, first take the initiative and do it to them. So, in this new year, be the first in meeting the needs of others; don't wait for them to first meet your needs. Be the first in meeting the needs of your spouse, friends, finance or relatives. Be the first in giving to that poor person you know. Be proactive in your giving; because it's one of the expressions of love. You can't love and not give. By doing this, you will teach people how to love and you will see them reciprocating the same gesture. This will result in thanksgivings and praises to our heavenly Father. #LOVE COACH. #I-teach-write-speak-research-motivate. #Relationship-betterment. #Love-impactor.