YOU DON'T GROW BY AGE

   Age and degree alone can never bring maturity; it's insight from God's word that brings maturity. One part of the bible says "desire the sincere milk of God's word that ye may grow". The reason we have many broken homes and relationships is because some people are not growing. They think age, degree or money only confers growth. Absolutely NO! It's your level of insight on the word of God. It's possible to have understanding than the ancients if only you make God's word your meditation. Any relationship can be restored and become heaven on earth if both partners can grow up by insight on the word God.

No matter the number of your degrees or the amount money in your account, you're still a baby if you are not full of the word.

   Even the Holy Book says "man shall not live by bread alone but by every word of God". The question is; how are you living? Is it by food only? We have many people living by food only thereby having  dead relationships,  businesses. No life in their marriages or courtships. The wine of their relationships has become stale. There's no book that can teach you how to love your spouse, children or people passionately and unconditionally except the word of God. Have you forgotten this? Guard your heart above all else, because out of it are the issues (happenings, events) of life. All the events of your life comes from your heart. Destructive marriage or courtship comes from heart. Don't blame the devil.  Protect your heart by the word of God. As you change the software or program of your heart, the hardware of your life will also change. You want change in your marriage, courtship or dating relationship, grow up by insight from the word. Don't be too busy for the word of God. Find time for the word no matter what. One hour with the word can save you from regret in your marriage.

   You can't be faithful in that relationship without the word of God. How will someone study the book of proverb and still be running after sugar mummy or daddy or slay queens.  If someone still does that, he/she lacks understanding of the word. You will find in one part of the book of wisdom written by one of the greatest kings ever lived that "delight in the wife of your youth, let her breasts satisfy you always". Remember, you don't grow by age or degree, but by the word of God.

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DO YOU LOVE AFRICA?

   The holy book says "pray for the peace of Jerusalem; they shall prosper that love thee. Peace be within thy walls; and prosperity within thy palaces. For my brethren and companions' sakes,  I will now say, peace be within thee. Because of the house of the LORD our God I will seek thy good." This was written by one of the greatest musicians and instrumentalists of the old testament. Whether we like it or not, our Jerusalem is Nigeria and Africa as a whole. We have to consistently be praying for the peace of Nigeria and Africa.
   People say, Africans are poor and many Nigerians live below $1 per day. The question is; do you love this country? Nobody can prosper in a country he/she hates because the wealth secret of that country will not be revealed unto him. One of the grrates lover of Africa is ALIKO DANGOTE. I know you're familiar that name. Some Nigeria musicians even used the name to sing that "I want to be rich like Dangote". He made one profound statement that "if he's given all the money in the world, he will invest it in Africa". You shouldn't be surprised why he's the richest in Africa.  He even encourages other Africans in abroad to come and invest in this continent.  The question is; "if you have all the money in the world, will you invest it in Africa?" Judge yourself.
Everybody hates our bad leadership, snail-like economy, poverty caused by not working together in love. We must not hate Africa if we want to prosper in it. We can't but love this continent. At least, for the sake of our brothers, sisters, wives, children, the next generation and even our religion, let's love our countries and Africa as a whole. Remember, the goodness of your country  will rub on you. Also, the worse of your country will rub on you. Nigerians can testify how they are being treated at International Airports because of bad image. Let's work together to redeem the glory of Africa. Let's put aside the belief that Africa was sold to the devil by our forefathers through idol worshipping. But my argument is, we should be free by now because we're the most religious continent in the world. And Christianity is more than other religions in Africa. You can testify with me that the blood of Jesus is more powerful than the power of the devil. Do you agree that devil is not our problem? We are just under the umbrella of hatred which is hindering the prosperity of Africa. If we're working together in love and looking for the good of our countries,  we'll be better of. There'll be enabling environments for innovations,  inventions and economy growth.
This trait of love is seen among the whites. I think many of them love their countries passionately. I'm not surprised they are setting the pace in technology , innovations and economy.  Until we love our countries,  there will be no development. Let's join our hands together to move Africa to greater heights. Remember,  united will stand, divided will fall. Africans, let's arise and shine together. Happy Democracy Day to my fellow Nigerians.
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FORGIVERS ARE GREAT LOVERS

   In the Holy Book, we're told Christ gave Himself for the church to make them holy, blameless and faultless. He does this by forgiving us our sins (or shortcomings) even in advance. As believers in Christ Jesus, our future sins are already forgiven, that is why we're called saints or holy people. Likewise,  husbands ought to give themselves for their own wives, making her blameless,  faultless,  spotless and glorious. This is possible by forgiving your spouse in advance including those wrongs which are yet to be committed. By this, you will have a glorious wife and relationship. Your woman will not be seen as a problem and your relationship will be heaven on earth.

   Also, you can make others blameless, spotless and faultless by forgiving them in advance for any wrong. It offers that before he/she commits any wrong, your forgiveness is already waiting. Your forgiveness swallow up her wrongs. This is how our heavanly Father acts towards believers. He doesn't count our faults against us. His forgiveness (mercy, lovingkindness) swallows up our iniquities (or shortcomings). That is why we're always blameless, faultless and spotless before Him. 

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OPTIMISTIC MARRIAGE

 

Don't focus on what is lacking in your marriage because what you focus on expands and multiplies.  Be like Christ who was faced with the challenge of feeding multitudes of 5 000 men excluding children and women. If we're to do the rough estimate of the multitudes,  they will be about 25, 000 assuming women population was twice of men, and each of them came with at least a child.

    Jesus focused on what they had left (5 loaves and 2 fishes) but the disciples focused on what they didn't have. By giving thanks on these loves and two fishes, about 25, 000 people were fed with 12 baskets full of fragments left.

   Focus on the good part of your marriage and give thanks. You will see blessing, favour,  peace and progress in your marriage. Remember, bless your marriage often, do not curse. Be like Jesus who blessed the 5 loaves of bread and 2 fishes.

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KNOW HOW TO TALK

   One of the proofs of love is talking in a graceful and lovely manner. Marriage is 90% conversation, 10% sex. Know how to talk to your spouse, children, boss, colleagues at work, and even strangers. Because words are like eggs that are very difficult to gather back. Think before you talk. Don't open your mouth to say anything because evil words are very destructive. Some people's mouths are like graveyards from which all manners of curses and abuses come out. Some people's mouths are like a car without a brake. They don't know when to stop talking. The writer of the book of James says "Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so." It offers that the mouth you use to bless shouldn't also be used to abuse or curse others. Your mouth should be a fountain of good words and not a fountain of evil words.  

   An individual is easily recognised by the content of his words.  Some girls are mannerless and careless with words, yet they are praying for husband. Who will marry them? I am not surprised they are still single. Even those of them who eventually got married are having headaches in their marriages.  Also, some men don't know how to talk to their wives. They talk to them as slaves. I'm not surprised their marriages are hell-on-earth. Don't forget that you will jutified by your words, you will also be condemned by your words. 

   Another part of the scriptures, written by one of the great apostles who ever lived, says; " Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one." It implies that your speech must be GRACEFUL AND SALTFUL. For your words to be graceful, it must be full of kindness, pleasure,  sweet and concern for others. For your words to be SALTFUL,  it must be full of wisdom and also preserving.  People should still be referring to the goodness of your words because of the positive impacts in their lives and destinies.  This is how to answer anyone and be free from trouble. Graceful words are not automatic; they take their source from knowledge. Even the holy book confirms this by saying "Grace and peace be multiplied unto you in the knowedge of God and Christ Jesus." By increasing your knowledge base (through good books, insightful materials ), you increase your graceful and saltful words. The words that come out of your mouth will be wise, pleasurable and kind. Remember,  you can't  change the content of your speech until you change the content of your heart. Why? Out of the abundance of the heart,  the mouth speaketh.  Thanks.

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PATIENCE: THE ANTIDOTE OF ANGER

   Patience is one of the attributes of love. Love is patient. Patience makes you to wait for something without annoyance or frustration.  Impatience makes you to get angry quickly. Impatience chokes life out of love.  A patient individual is full of mercy towards others. A patient man is full of mercy towards his wife and children. A patient boss is full of mercy towards her subordinates.  You can't be merciful and not be patient. Also, you can't be patient and not be merciful. For example, a patient woman does not easily  shout on her husband or children. A man that is patient can never be the lion of the tribe of his house, so that as he gets home,  his children hide in their various "holes."
   Patience makes you to tolerate your spouse's mistakes or shortcomings. It makes you to be slow in  judging others. One sign of impatience is quick annoyance at the mistakes of others. The holy book praises God by being slow to anger and abounding in lovingkindness. It's because He is very patient with humanity. A patient man is abounding in lovingkindness towards others. He's not under pressure because he always maintains his cool.  He is not easily agitated.  He can't suffer from heart attack. He knows God makes everything beautiful in its time. He doesn't make haste. He waits for his time to come. He's full of compassion towards others especially his wife and children. A patient man seeks understanding in any situation.  He's not hasty in words.  He/she is full of faith.
  Patience also means to be persistent in the face of trials; to possess never-give attitude. It takes to persistence.  An impatience man is easily discouraged. An impatience man gives up easily. He/she doesn't push through. He doesn't dig deep. He only scratches the surface.  Remember,  impatience is  costly because it destroys destiny and love.
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LOVE GIVES FREEDOM

   

   Love never cages but gives freedom. A caged person feels imprisoned. She will think you don't trust her. Free your partner; allow her to have  her own life.  Never encroach on the liberty of your partner  because it only breeds frustration  and mistrust. This attitude has broken many relationships.

   Stop trying to know everything your partner does; it only makes you look irritating. Not trusting your partner to have friends even opposite sex as friends can be a sign of low self-esteem or inferiority complex. 

   The Holy Book says, "I place before you life and death; choose life so you can live." Even our heavenly Father gave us the freedom of  choice.  We're called by God into "liberty." This liberty is not meant for sin; it's for responsibility.  So, giving liberty to your partner confer on her responsibility.  She will be happy to see her as a responsible person. 

   Remember, love gives liberty.  Your partner will appreciate it when you give her her own freedom. 
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