HOW ANY WOMAN CAN KEEP HER MAN WITHOUT ALL THOSE KAYAMATA AND JUJU NONSENSE

HOW ANY WOMAN CAN KEEP HER MAN WITHOUT ALL THOSE KAYAMATA AND JUJU NONSENSE

 

Let’s talk about how any woman can keep her man without all those kayamata and juju nonsense…

Once in a while, I get messages from women who read my blog posts and who want me to advise them on what to do to keep their man without kayamata and juju.

Last week alone, I got 12 of such messages.

8 of them were from married women who are looking for ways to keep their men from side chicks while the rest were from single ladies who are almost giving up on love because of heartbreaks.

If you have read any of my blog posts too, you should know by now that I know many delicious relationship tips that can save your courtship or marriage.

 

The following article is the reply to some of those messages:

 

1.      Don’t be men-pleaser: In trying to show love to your man, don’t lose yourself. Try as much as possible to be yourself. A man that loves you will love your real person. Remember to maintain a healthy sense of self in your relationship and be true to who you really are, not who you think he wants you to be. Does is it stop character improvement? Absolutely no. Improve on any area you’re lacking.

2.    Appreciate him: This is very important. Don’t allow closeness to make you lose respect for your man. Learn to praise him in areas like his effort in trying to meet the needs of the family (men love this seriously), his handiwork (be interested in his work; don’t nag); appreciate him for that positive things he does. Remember, being in a relationship with someone is voluntary. A person can leave at any time. So, appreciate your man. Don’t learn in a hard way.

3.    Be interested in his work and hobbies: If you hate your man’s work, you have already signed up for unhappiness in your relationship. Because men draw self-worth from work. You show you’re interested by listening to his work problems and suggest a little fix to any area he’s finding difficult to solve. Your man will see you as an invaluable asset. For you to do this, you must build your intellectual capacity by books and attending seminars…Don’t be only a movie freak. In any of the sport he’s passionate with, get involved. Go and watch him play and cheer him up. These little things count.

4.    Learn to hug him: Especially when he comes from work. That your two breasts are not only for breast-feeding but also to dissipate the work pressure in the heart of your partner. So hug him like a baby. Place his head on your front twins.

5.     Be aware of your emotions: Know how to manage your emotions. Because women are masters at using their emotions to communicate volumes without speaking any words. Avoid cold war in your relationship. Don’t forget, your man want to know he lights you up – not that he is constantly disappointing you.

6.    Prioritize your relationship: Don’t place job, children, a sick relative, charity or anything above your man. After God, your man should come next. Make him know this. Every man want to feel valued and important. It’s relationship you care for that will last for a lifetime.

7.     Learn his love language: This is very important. According to Dr. Gary Chapman in his book titled “The Five Love Languages”, he said there are five love languages like Quality time, Act of service, Word of affirmation, Praise & Gift. Learn your man’s love language and speak it to him regularly. If it’s praise, praise him often. He will know he is loved and remain true to you.

8.    Recognize his relationship patterns: Try to know the history of his previous relationships.  If he was a cheater you can’t change him; he will surely cheat no matter the love he has for you. Some men have cheating in their genes they can’t but have sexual relations with as many women as they can. If it’s your boyfriend, leave him. Because he’s going to cause you heartbreak. If he’s your husband, I can only pray for mercy to endure because you are in already.

9.     Always remind him you exist: Especially when he’s at work or out with the guys. You can text him a short and quick message like “I love you,” “I miss you” or “I have a special surprise for you when you get home!”  This is a better way than nagging or questioning him on the phone. Force guilty thoughts out of his mind with your love.

10.   Let him know the consequences of cheating on you: Let him know in a lighthearted way (but with a deadly serious undertone) that you will not tolerate a cheater. This is best done at the start of your relationship when he’s still over you. The consequence might be leaving him. If you are worth having, he won’t dear to cheat.

11. Give him the best sex of his life: This advice is for married couples. Sex is not meant to be boring; it should be an interesting and unforgetting moment, making your spouse to long for more.  Every woman needs to be creative in this area. Don’t be too holy towards your man when it comes to sex. Be weird in bed with him. You can be spirit-talking and word-quoting but when it comes to bedwork you must be like “Delilah”. It’s your man…your husband for God sake. Your body now belongs to him. Initiate different styles and not the usual “Deeper life approach”. Because a man who is well fed at home hardly goes after tooth-pick legged ladies outside. Be wise!!

 

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 Gbenga Dada

(YourLoveCoach)