HOW TO SAVE YOUR MAN FROM SIDE CHICS

The physicist, Albert Einstein, made a discovery on SPACE and TIME. This is also applicable to relationship. Women crave for time (attention) while men crave for space (time to be alone).  The ability to know the difference and when to apply it will save you from a lot of stress in your dating, courtship or marriage.

Many relationships are under pressure because of ignorance of the law of space and time. Women, let me tell you a secret, as much as a man loves you, he also needs some space to be on his own – time to be in his cave doing his personal stuff. Those things that give him joy. These things can be work, golf, watching games like football, volleyball or basketball. Hindering him from doing these things in the name of attention will make him unhappy. Even though he gives you the attention out of coercion, just know he doesn’t come from his heart.

If you need somebody to gist with, why not gist with a friend instead.  It’s far better than disturbing or stopping his activity. When he’s done, he will definitely come for you. You must understand that as women derive pleasure from companionship, men drive pleasure from work or activity like games. This insight will save you from relationship stress. Forcing a man to give you attention at all cost can be fruitless when his mind is in champion league or his work. Give him that space. Leave him to do his own stuff. (But men should not overdo this also. I will even suggest you quickly round up whatever you are doing to see your woman).  

Another mistake women make in relationships is trying to change their men. This can backfire. A man can break up with a lady on that basis if it’s too much. Appreciate his nature; allow him to be himself and you will have a confident and lovely man. (Advice to men: try to place yourself on consistent self development and you will see yourself becoming a better man). Even though you want him to improve in certain aspect of his life, present it as a suggestion rather than using a mothering tone --- I meant a commanding tone; no man likes that. When you give an advice and he doesn’t yield to it but rather does things his own way which eventually leads to great errors, don’t scold or mock him. Don’t ever say, “Didn’t I tell you”. No man loves to hear that. Rather, comfort him and assure him he will do better next time. You can then bring up your abandoned advice again. Doing this will make you “pocket” your man without stress. There’s a general belief that “sex and food” keep a man. That’s a big lie. Most women can give that but only few women can be understanding and patience with their husbands. Remember, don’t try to change your man, rather, appreciate his good nature and the bad character will disappear with time.

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